When your children can put a name to a feeling, good things happen:

• A strong feeling can be overwhelming and unfamiliar. Putting a name to the feeling can reduce the anxiety caused by a strange and unfamiliar emotion.
• The part of the brain responsible for language is different from the part responsible for emotions. By naming a feeling, the brain has to switch gears to the language centre. This can help your child to express a feeling in a more controlled and positive way.

To help them identify their feelings, start by observing your children. Their body language and behaviour will often tell you what they’re feeling. Then you can say things like, “It looks like you’re feeling sad/frustrated/disappointed/angry/scared.” It’s important to say this in a non-judgmental, calm manner. The goal is to help children identify their feelings and learn to act on them in a way that doesn’t harm themselves or others.

Don’t forget, pleasant feelings like happiness and joy deserve notice too. During stressful times, it can be too easy to forget any momentary feelings of peace and contentment.